Commitment or New Pussy

Tango is a patient dance. It took me a while to learn why the good dancers would be stand-offish. That’s because it IS such a challenge to learn.

Just like the disdain with which veterans of a military unit regard the new recruits fresh out of boot camp, tango dancers would wait and see if you had what it took to stick around for the long haul.

It’s been over 12 years since I took my first dance steps, and tango has taken me to amazing places. That’s part of the point of this blog.

But the real reason why I’m here and why I imagine you’re still reading is the basic question: “Where do we go from here?”

Recently in my professional life, I’ve been pondering the same question that Chris Rock asks: “Commitment or new pussy?”


(click to watch his routine)

I know, this may be a strange thing to say on a blog about tango, travel, lifestyle. But bear with me.

Too many times we chase after the next big thing – otherwise known as the Shiny Object Syndrome. Come on, admit it – you’ve fallen for the latest guru or information product that promises all the answers for the low price of $99.

Deep down we know that the answers really lie within. Yet, still here we are.. credit cards maxed out, shelves full of study courses, hard drives full of video files.

At some point it dawned on me that rather than searching for some ultimate meaning of life, each moment has meaning if we choose to give it so.

Like Dorothy clicking her heels when she finally realized that she had the answer to getting home all along, we know that “there is no way to happiness, happiness is the way..”

And that is the essence of what fascinates me about tango – it’s a discipline like zen masters talk about chopping wood and carrying water; it’s as much a spiritual practice of meditation as sitting under ice cold water falls.

They say it takes 10,000 hours to mastery (unless you’re Tim Ferriss). Well, it’s been at least that many steps and a nice round number of miles since taking my first steps.

So, it’s appropriate that, as I finally write my first words here on this blog, I’m headed to a milonga and practice what I preach.

But hopefully these past few years have taught me more than sales.. maybe the light bulb has finally come on – that it’s not enough to have a good message, you have to connect with your audience.

And maybe if you’ve read this far, it’s a start. I hope you’re join me on this journey – to see what we can learn together. I’m committed. How about you?